1/29/2010

I Don't Blame You Angelina, But I Still Don't Like You

The other day I was watching an episode of Mercy (because I am addicted to watching TV on Hulu and I ran out of shows I normally watch and it's kind of like Grey's Anatomy but with nurses) and I had a flashback to my single years.

In the episode, one of the nurses thinks she's found this wonderful guy. But it turns out that he's married, which she discovers when his wife and her two friends humiliate her at a restaurant (worth noting: one of the trashy, loudmouthed friends was played by one of the Real Housewives of New Jersey. . .typecasting, yes?).

You see, once upon a time, I too met this great guy. He was gorgeous, rich, smart, funny, charming and kind. And he thought I was awesome.

Would you like to know why?

It wasn't really my own looks, smarts or charm (not that I was a loser or anything, but this guy. . .WOW). It was because I already knew he was married.

So I wouldn't date him. We'd run into each other, we'd flirt, he'd buy me drinks and then I would go home. And he thought that made me the greatest thing since sliced bread. I thought it made me . . . .not an idiot. So I'm not saying I was in the position of the girl on the show - I was not dating the guy and I knew he was married - but if his wife had been bothered by the unknowing women he WAS dating (yeah, that's a euphemism) or by his friendship with me. . .who do you think she would have gotten pissed at?

That just seems so wrong to me. HE was the one betraying the marriage (or not, to hear him tell it she was off doing her own thing as well but I never ran into her) like the guy on Mercy. . . . and Brad Pitt. (C'mon, we all know he cheated with Angelina. We may have gotten over it, but I will always be on Team Aniston.)

What do you think? When a guy cheats, is it really because of some seductive woman? Or is it because he's a cheater?

2 comments:

Suzy Voices said...

There are probably multiple reasons why, depending on the man, or woman, since men aren't the only ones who cheat. But if a person is totally committed to their spouse, then nothing should get in the way of it. Even if a totally hot person is seducing the hell out of them, they should know how to say no.

Colleen said...

YES! Team Aniston! I think that it's mostly the cheating husband (or wife's) fault. And that most of the anger should be directed to the unfaithful party; especially if the "other woman/man" had no idea that their lover was married.However, I don't think the other woman/man (if they knowingly entered an affair) is completely not to blame either. It takes a pretty terrible and immoral person to enter a relationship with a woman or man who is married. Of course there is the exception to the rule...or is there? I'm not so sure if there's every an excusable reason for an affair. Maybe the exception is that you're not ALWAYS a horrible person...but you did do a horrible thing.