When Hubby asked me if his friend Sam could stay with us for a while, I said okay. When he shared that Sam would be bringing his Chinese (as in, Mandarin speaking from China) girlfriend with him, I said okay. When he said that they would be staying for two weeks, I thought he was joking.
He wasn't.
Back in like 1991, Sam's family let Hubby stay with them for a long while. In Sam's world, this means that Hubby owes Sam.
We do not have a guest room. We do not have a foldout couch. When guests (rarely) come, they either take over Ironflower's room or sleep on a cot in our not remodeled but still used as an office basement.
Since the cot doesn't even really fit one adult, Sam and Celia are now ensconced in Ironflower's room. The original plan, made when I panicked over the thought of having guests in our house for two weeks, was that they would spend a night with us, then go to stay with my parents. Who have an entire floor that can be a guest suite (aka the attic, but they remodeled it very nicely when I moved up there as a teenager). But for whatever reason, the couple is now staying here UNTIL NEXT WEEK.
They are nice and polite, but Sam and I have never been close and I'd never met Celia. Ironflower and Lovebug are unhappily sharing a room and now I have extra housework to do. And we've already run out of toilet paper. Hubby is busy with work all week (like, tonight, for example) and wait. . .so am I. We literally do not have money for extra groceries or for entertaining guests. We don't even have time for entertaining guests. We are no way equipped to have guests for two days, let alone two weeks.
Obviously I never should have agreed to this, but Hubby made it sound like Sam would never forgive him and they've been friends since like the first grade.
Any tips on how to deal with this? Because I just want them to go away, or at least leave me alone the 90% of the time. I suppose this makes me a bitch. I could be using this time to get to know Sam better, or to learn about China (I could say get to know Celia, but since they had such a big fight before coming here that they almost didn't come, I don't think I'll ever see Celia again, to be honest). But I don't feel like getting to know anyone or anything while I'm getting used to being pregnant and working from home.
15 comments:
yikes, not sure what to say, cept that sucks. it is so hard to have guests when you don't have much room, never the less guests you hardly know. can you spend a day at your folks, just to get away ? are they doing anythign during the day - maybe send them to the city for the day ??
That is seriously crazy. You need your life and your house back. If they are not moving or helping then avoiding them is probably as good as it can get right now. So sorry!
What a rough time to have guests. Just when exhaustion and nausea are setting in! I say use the prego card if you need to to beg off cooking. Maybe they'll take the hint and go eat out on their own.
You can be kind and set a good example for the kids without getting walked over or breaking your bank.
OR START FARTING.. A LOT!
I'm so sorry to hear. I would be miserable too. And how very awkward! I wouldn't go the extra mile to entertain or provide meals. I hope the time passes quickly. Hang in there.
Oh, girl. I'm not sad they cleaned your toilet. You should let them do more! That's it. That's how you get rid of them. Start by asking if they can give you a hand with the dishes and gradually move up to asking for foot rubs. Either they'll be out fast or your house will be spotless and your dogs won't be barkin'!
I work out of my home too...and I think I would be getting snarky with hubby's guests...I wouldn't mean too...but I am sorta a grump that way..lmao
Wow, that suck! Here's hoping the next couple weeks fly by!
OMG!!!! I would freak out. The only thing I can think of is for you to pack up the kids and take a two week vacation. ANYWHERE! I just would not be able to handle it. WTF???????
Oh, I know! Make THEM take care of YOU. When they get up in the morning ask if they can do your grocery shopping. Ask them what they will be making for dinner. Ask them if they will be needing an extra set of rubber gloves when they do the dishes. You have small children. AND YOU ARE PREGNANT!!!!!!!!! ACK!!!! No one should expect you to take care of two adults as well!!!!!!!!!!
That is so intrusive! Especially if it's obvious you don't have a guest room. I'm sitting here with my mouth gaping open. My husband's best friend is weird and awful, (I call him Weird Awful XXX to my friends) but I don't even think he would pull that. He has stayed with us for weekends in our cramped studio apartment, but never with a girlfriend. And I definitely couldn't be left alone with him all day. You poor thing. Hopefully they'll leave early.
Yes, It's not pretty to be pregnant and to have guest, but put your self in other peoples shoes ,first of all it's a favor for your husband, they are his guest, be considerate of your husband, treat them with respect and be courteous, Just remember the world turns and sometimes your up and sometimes your down, what if it was you visiting with your kids at their home, treat them like you would like to be treated if you were their guest, trust me sometimes it pays up, once I was a unexpected guest at a house, where I didn't know the people, and they were so kind and nice to me, when they didn't have to be, and you appreciate that, and I know for sure if those people were to come and visit me, I would try to treat them as kings/queens, they didnt' no me and they treated me like I was special, you never know what the future holds, please be nice, you never know!!!
If you don't have money for meals and are very tired to be cooking try simple meals that don't cost too much and are very simple to make, for instance hamburger helper with a salad and bread, hot pockets that take about 2 minutes in the microwave with a salad on the side, a taco salad, hot dogs, easy meals for very little money, make conversation and be nice remember your manners,it's tough, but try to enjoy it as much as possible who knows, maybe next year you'll get invited to visit China!
Wow, that suck! Here's hoping the next couple weeks fly by!
yikes, not sure what to say, cept that sucks. it is so hard to have guests when you don't have much room, never the less guests you hardly know. can you spend a day at your folks, just to get away ? are they doing anythign during the day - maybe send them to the city for the day ??
Yes, It's not pretty to be pregnant and to have guest, but put your self in other peoples shoes ,first of all it's a favor for your husband, they are his guest, be considerate of your husband, treat them with respect and be courteous, Just remember the world turns and sometimes your up and sometimes your down, what if it was you visiting with your kids at their home, treat them like you would like to be treated if you were their guest, trust me sometimes it pays up, once I was a unexpected guest at a house, where I didn't know the people, and they were so kind and nice to me, when they didn't have to be, and you appreciate that, and I know for sure if those people were to come and visit me, I would try to treat them as kings/queens, they didnt' no me and they treated me like I was special, you never know what the future holds, please be nice, you never know!!!
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