My Dad keeps sending me articles from the Wall Street Journal about modern parenting. Apparently, my toddlers should be in language classes, music classes and Little Gym. They should have a $1200 swing set and a climbing wall in the basement. And we should be saving up to take them on safari.
Look, I wish we had the swing set and I'm looking into music classes (though I'm really not going to worry much about extra-curricular activities until they are actually following a curriculum). But we're not going a safari. Even if I win the Lottery.
The Wall Street Journal interviewed parents who took their elementary school-aged kids on African safaris, vacations to Hong Kong and Panama and camping in the Brazilian rainforest. It even listed resources for "Adventure Travel with Kids" - and medical warnings.
Helloooooooooooo? These are the same parents who make their kids where helmets, who make sure playground floors are comfortable enough to sleep on, who complain if a teacher marks their child's paper in red (yes, this is true, most school districts do not allow teachers to correct in red anymore), who spend their lives making sure their children suffer no consequences or disappointments. . .but they're willing to shell out thousands of dollars to take their children places that lack safe drinking water and medical facilities?
I believe in travel. I think children should experience the world around them - and not just the sanitized Disney version (though I can't wait until my kids are old enough to appreciate Disney World). We even travelled to Alaska last summer - with a 19 month old and a 4 month old. But I believe that one of the best things about having kids is encouraging their sense of wonder - at even the simplest things. For most kids, a (reasonable) ride in an airplane is almost as good as the destination. What are 7 year olds who have seen tigers up close going to wonder about anymore? What's going to be exciting and wonder-ful to ten year olds who have canoed down the Amazon?
But setting aside safety and spoiling concerns, I still have a problem. One of the parents in the article suggested that, "You can't save the world unless you know what's in it." I agree with that, theoretically. But shouldn't we start with our own country anyway? Have the kids whose parents are showing off ever more fantastical vacations ever been to a farm? Have these kids been to New York City and compared it to Kansas City? Have these kids walked on a glacier in Alaska? Have they been to the Grand Canyon? To Gettysburg? To Washington D.C.? To Mount Rushmore? To a working cider mill? To a rocky beach in Oregon? To a smooth beach in Florida? To New Orleans? To the Freedom Trail? To Las Vegas? To Santa Fe? To Iowa City (I'm not kidding, it's a wonderful town)?
Before we can ask our children to save our world, we need them to save our country. And if we raise them to think that there's not much in our country worth seeing, what are we teaching them? They're not going to save something they don't respect.
Sorry kids, you're going to have to go on Safari on your own time. This summer we're hitting the Jersey shore, Ohio, Illinois and Kansas.
5 comments:
wow! I agree so much. let the kids see the wonder in their own backyard, then ebb out from there.
my kids have been blessed to travel outside of the US, their aunt lives overseas. but we have also been to farms and beaches etc. I think you make some important points here. can you get it printed in the editorial section of the Wall Street Journal, as a response??
I don't think the WSJ cares much about people like me, unfortunately!
even so, it surely must allow editorials, and some of those folks surely need to hear it! ;)
wow! I agree so much. let the kids see the wonder in their own backyard, then ebb out from there.
my kids have been blessed to travel outside of the US, their aunt lives overseas. but we have also been to farms and beaches etc. I think you make some important points here. can you get it printed in the editorial section of the Wall Street Journal, as a response??
even so, it surely must allow editorials, and some of those folks surely need to hear it! ;)
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